Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Are you two brothers?

Hypothetically speaking, let's say you're married to someone who was married once before and has been divorced for over five years, and you walk into the home of one of your inlaws and see a picture of your spouse and their first spouse hanging on the wall. For whatever reason, there's no picture of you and your spouse hanging anywhere, but there are multiple pictures of this first spouse. And let's just say for the sake of argument that your spouse's first marriage ended badly because of the way this person treated them, but you've heard through the grapevine that your inlaw was once very close to this person. Question: is it wrong to want the inlaw to put the picture away (not destroy it, just take it down) or is that overreacting? Purely hypothetical.

I hope everyone is having a great 4th of July! It's been raining a lot here this weekend, which is making me think we won't be able to do the cookout and fireworks today. But that's ok because I can still make s'mores on our gas stove. Whoo! It's that kind of resourcefulness that made America great.

11 Comments:

Blogger Ann said...

Thanks for the input. OF COURSE, it's all hypothetical, but I'm glad that if it were the case, that other people agree that wanting those pictures down is not overreacting. Danke :)

And it poured here last night so we didn't see fireworks. That was one of the rainiest 4th of Julys I can remember.

8:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are definitely not overreacting. That relationship is over, and there is no reason to keep those pics out. If they like this other spouse so much, then by all means have pics of just her or her with other people but definitely NOT with J, or um, this hypothetical spouse!

8:35 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

IF it were true, I would wish this inlaw could understand how small it would make someone feel to see that sort of thing...as if you're second-class. It hurts.

9:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hypothetically speaking...maybe the spouse should gently nudge the inlaw to a)take them down or b) put up a picture of the current spouse.

10:06 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

Anonymous :),
I will pass along that suggestion to the hypothetical spouse. I don't think he would have a problem with that.

10:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with anonymous and uhlisa...gently nudge hypothetical spouse to take down hypothetical pictures! Hypothetical inlaws likely to not get defensive if their son asks...

No rain here on the 4th...absolutely gorgeous weekend! Columbia, of course, the hottest part of the state, though! :)

10:38 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

Beth, hypothetically, the spouse in this situation would not have to say something to the parents...tell you what, I'll just email you :)

10:45 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

Poster size?? That's big! ...I LIKE IT!!!

1:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Different Anonymous here...just FYI, if a certain hypothetical new spouse wanted to get poster sized pics...Winkflash has them 40% off...here's the coupon code: MD82HG92 ;)

1:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Uhlisa, charleston usually has a breeze which makes it FEEL cooler, don't you think? That is so much better than Columbia being in a sand pit! :) Ah, i love living in the screen door to hell!

LOVE the poster sized image idea! I use photoworks.com and they have good prices!

4:57 PM  
Blogger Ann said...

Columbia, the screen door to hell. I love that!

8:40 AM  

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